#hsloveyourselfie – day 2

#hsloveyourselfie

thank you so much for posting your selfies on Instagram! i have had so much fun looking at all your beautiful faces! today we continue my “love your selfie” journey with Maggie Massey questioning why we over critique our photos? we all do it. we take a photo of our self and see something we wish we could change, so we take 40 more pictures thinking that it will get better!!! ha! when i look at these photos of Maggie, i see who she really is. beautiful on the inside and out. her true character shines in these photos. she is witty (she cracks me up!), kind, and loving. she is honest and i LOVE what she has to share today… it speaks to me as i hope it does you…

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Wow.

The selfie. A cultural phenomenon.

And one of the hardest things in the world for some of us to participate in.

I will admit…before I post any photo of me ANYWHERE I will critique it, over-critique it, take about 72 more photos, over-critique those, take a few more, mess with some filters, and then FINALLY decide to share one…and while my heart races and the worry and the insecurities take over I hit the “done” button.

It’s actually a very time-consuming and stress-inducing process for me.

And God-forbid someone ELSE takes a photo of me and posts it without me “approving” it…oh my gosh…that’s an entirely different anxiety-making story.

But why? It really doesn’t make sense. I really do like who I am. I’m entirely comfortable in my skin (even though there is much more of it than is ideal) and I feel better about me now than I ever have.

I guess it’s because whenever I get ready to share myself with someone (through a photo) I fall right back into high school. I look at my photos and my nose looks too big, my skin looks too scarred, my hair has too many roots or isn’t styled properly, my teeth look weird, my eyelids look heavy and the skin around my eyes is too wrinkly, you can see too much of my body or my lipstick is the wrong shade.

I can’t explain why this happens…it just does.

And I really don’t think it’s about me comparing myself to others. It’s about me comparing myself to me…wishing I could be better. I want to look pretty. I want to look approachable. I want to look on the outside the way I feel on the inside…you know?

Now…that being said, when I talk about beauty in other people, I think I can genuinely say that beauty, to me, is much more about who you are than what you look like. As I’ve aged I’ve realized that some of the most beautiful women I know are not women who would necessarily be chosen for a magazine cover. But these women are gorgeous all the same. And I truly believe that there is not a woman alive who doesn’t have at least one aesthetically beautiful feature.

And there it is…the double standard I have for myself and others.

OK…so as I struggled with some of the questions we had been discussing with our team, I decided to start taking some selfies. And I told myself I was going to use them in my project even if there was no way I would EVER post them. I realized, first of all, that I need a “how to take a selfie” class. I don’t know if my arms aren’t long enough or my head is shaped wrong or what, but getting a decent selfie for me was like trying to smell the letter 9.

BUT, after about 10 jillion photos and 30 different position-changes, I finally got some I was willing to share in my project.

More on that as we go through my book…

And away we go…

#hsloveyourselfie - Maggie Massey for Heidi Swapp

I used the Hello Today collection (available exclusively at Michaels) for my little mini. The colors and the designs are so rad…and I love how they complemented my photos.

#hsloveyourselfie - Maggie Massey for Heidi Swapp

I used a Memory File Kit and converted it a little to create this portfolio. I added some patterned paper to the edges of both the top and bottom of a cut-down folder and wrapped the bottom piece over the top to close it. A little magnet in-between paper layers on both the top piece and folded-over piece of the file holds the whole thing together…

#hsloveyourselfie - Maggie Massey for Heidi Swapp

This is it with was essentially the back part of the folder opened. (try to say that 10 times fast…)

When you open the “top” side of the portfolio you begin to see the project a little more clearly…

#hsloveyourselfie - Maggie Massey for Heidi Swapp

Here it is all opened up. I used the photo-stack from the Memory File kit (turned on its side) as the base for my little mini…

#hsloveyourselfie - Maggie Massey for Heidi Swapp

OK…so here we are. The inside-front-cover. I added some journaling inside the little card I made on the left…defining the “selfie” and why I find taking them so difficult. I think when it comes down to it, we all want to be accepted. We all want to be loved. We all want people to think that we are worth knowing. And, right or wrong, I guess I worry that people won’t like me or won’t think I’m worth it if I don’t look good.

Is that a silly way to think? Probably. Again, the double standard…

The middle part of the portfolio is where the photo-stack mini is…

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I printed out the definition of “selfie” in light grey on a transparency sheet and set that over the die-cut selfie (colored with Mustard Color Shine)…if you look really closely you can sort of see it up there…kind of. You can download your own “selfie” by clicking right here, then right clicking on the image to save to your computer.

#hsloveyourselfie - Maggie Massey for Heidi Swapp

The next page holds some more journaling and this wonderful quote I’ve been seeing all over Pinterest. It really does help remind me that there is room for everyone’s talents/everyone’s style/everyone’s gift. We don’t have to compete. God would not have given us the talents He gave us if He wanted us to hide behind others…he wants us to use our talents…to share them and to bless others with them.

#hsloveyourselfie - Maggie Massey for Heidi Swapp

Flip the page and you see my little ode to my favorite feature…my eyes. I think they are probably the one facial feature I don’t have too much trouble with…too much.

#hsloveyourselfie - Maggie Massey for Heidi Swapp

On this page I’ve written about how I see the world. And I explain how I want people to see me…

#hsloveyourselfie - Maggie Massey for Heidi Swapp

Next are just some goofy selfies I’ve added. Silliness is such a large part of my personality that I wanted to make sure I added these…

#hsloveyourselfie - Maggie Massey for Heidi Swapp

Next up…more journaling. Questions I ask myself…Am I? questions. These are things I ask myself probably every day in one way or another…

#hsloveyourselfie - Maggie Massey for Heidi Swapp

#hsloveyourselfie - Maggie Massey for Heidi Swapp

And finally…surprise, surprise…more selfies. AND more journaling (on small little sheets of paper attached with the butterfly paperclip) about how I feel about getting older, about raising a daughter, and about not being satisfied with my physical appearance…

#hsloveyourselfie - Maggie Massey for Heidi Swapp

And there you have it…

I think this project was really important for me. It got me to write down feelings I’ve never really expressed before. It got me thinking about how I need to go about teaching my 11-year-old daughter to see herself. It got me feeling more comfortable being in front of the camera…and it got me realizing that, although the insecurities may stay, I don’t have to let them inhibit me.

your mini book astounds me Maggie! i love that you captured your true self in these photos! i am INSPIRED to get the camera out and really document “who i believe I AM.”

ok!!! here is your assignment! ask yourself: What do you not like about looking at your photographs? Is that why you do/or do not take pictures of yourself? then, take Maggie’s lead and take several selfies. a bunch!!! enough to then feel comfortable sharing a few. create a collage in either PicFrame (iPhone/Android) or PicsArt (Android) and share them on Instagram or Facebook using the hashtag #hsloveyourselfie! let’s get more comfortable in front of the camera and learn to love ourselves for who we were created to be!

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